I loved this and agree with it 1000% I know the audience for this piece is directed towards the partners of mothers and I know that mothers don't ever need anything more "to do" and that if they do anything they need help from the partners/others but I can't help but think about the role mothers play in owning these "gifts." Speaking from personal experience, I know I need sleep and would love to get away for a week, or be able to go to coffee with a friend, but I also know the guilt that comes with these things (or perhaps worse, the mental math that happens before I decide my brain is too tired and it's easier if I just don't do all those extra things). It's my work to figure out how to get comfortable with that/ask for help, etc. When more of us are forthright and confident in owning our needs and valuing these activities not as "extras" or "luxuries", or "treats," but necessities, then I think we'll start to see some shifting. As a society we have internalized these patriarchal structures such that we've normalized the insanity that is modern-day motherhood and there is nothing about it that allows for consistent wellbeing. We've basically become accustomed to this "reality" and it's a complete illusion. I see the tradwife trend as a response to this in the "I give up" vein. Then there are the activists that are speaking up and out about it (like you). And then there is the majority—everyone else—along for the ride. We need more awakening! More of the majority needs to find their voice and speak up about these things. Then, watch out 😊.
I love this SO much Molly! This is exactly how I’ve been feeling about the upcoming holiday. If you really value us and the work we do, show us!!!! Thank you for the rant so we can live vicariously through your words.
👏🏽 👏🏽 👏🏽 💃🏼 🎤 this is brilliant. Thank you for spelling all this out so eloquently (and comedically). I’ll be linking to this in my newsletter on Monday about how much I wish I could want to write about Mother’s Day but I just can’t anymore with it all. This returned a pep into my step rather than just absolute hopelessness.
Love: "Pick a thing."
So easy, right? 😄
I loved this and agree with it 1000% I know the audience for this piece is directed towards the partners of mothers and I know that mothers don't ever need anything more "to do" and that if they do anything they need help from the partners/others but I can't help but think about the role mothers play in owning these "gifts." Speaking from personal experience, I know I need sleep and would love to get away for a week, or be able to go to coffee with a friend, but I also know the guilt that comes with these things (or perhaps worse, the mental math that happens before I decide my brain is too tired and it's easier if I just don't do all those extra things). It's my work to figure out how to get comfortable with that/ask for help, etc. When more of us are forthright and confident in owning our needs and valuing these activities not as "extras" or "luxuries", or "treats," but necessities, then I think we'll start to see some shifting. As a society we have internalized these patriarchal structures such that we've normalized the insanity that is modern-day motherhood and there is nothing about it that allows for consistent wellbeing. We've basically become accustomed to this "reality" and it's a complete illusion. I see the tradwife trend as a response to this in the "I give up" vein. Then there are the activists that are speaking up and out about it (like you). And then there is the majority—everyone else—along for the ride. We need more awakening! More of the majority needs to find their voice and speak up about these things. Then, watch out 😊.
yes yes and YES!
I love this so MUCH!!
Thanks, Lyn 😊❤️
I love this SO much Molly! This is exactly how I’ve been feeling about the upcoming holiday. If you really value us and the work we do, show us!!!! Thank you for the rant so we can live vicariously through your words.
Ha! Yes, a rant for all!
The holiday we hate to hate but still hate every year 😄
👏🏽 👏🏽 👏🏽 💃🏼 🎤 this is brilliant. Thank you for spelling all this out so eloquently (and comedically). I’ll be linking to this in my newsletter on Monday about how much I wish I could want to write about Mother’s Day but I just can’t anymore with it all. This returned a pep into my step rather than just absolute hopelessness.
aw, thanks, Kaitlyn!
It's really hard to fight the hopelessness but we can at least pass the torch back and forth :)
What a beautiful way to put it.
I loved this and it made me laugh but I really do want a heating pad for neck and shoulders haha!
Ha! Yes! You deserve that heating pad for neck and shoulders AND the time to sit down and enjoy it!